Stressful events interfere with our ability to think. As human beings, we have an automatic response to moments when we feel scared or under threat. When we are very stressed, our natural tendency is to take flight, fight, freeze or faint. In many situations, when there is an immediate threat, this is very helpful for survival. In other situations, like the threat of deportation, when stress is not momentary but can last for long periods, it is important to find ways to reduce stress. Because the topic of deportation is very stressful, and elicits intense fear, it will take an active effort to think and plan, in order to reduce some of its negative impact.
In the past, many immigrants have managed the fear and stress of potential deportation by avoiding conversations about the topic altogether. Some people may have chosen not to speak about their immigration status at all, in order to feel safer and protected from being targeted. Others have not spoken about deportation because it brings up memories that are too painful. Talking about one’s immigration status can be emotionally challenging, but it may be beneficial if done with trusted friends or colleagues. Nonetheless, it may stir up fears of deportation and fears of losing the connection with loved ones, if forced to leave. It may also bring to mind the difficult journey to come to the U.S., all that was sacrificed, as well as the life and people left behind, or who might now be left behind. Conversations about immigration status or deportation may also be particularly overwhelming if the initial reason for migrating was to flee physical (or emotional) violence. It is hard to be close to painful feelings.