Despite our natural tendency to do the opposite, having conversations about our fears, in emotionally sensitive ways, can actually reduce stress. When we are stressed, having the support and love of those around us can help us feel better. In talking to each other we feel connected and this can help reduce stress. Children are very sensitive to what goes on around them. Think of them as emotional sponges that can soak up tensions. Even if emotionally charged topics like the fear of deportation are not discussed, many children are perceptive enough to pick up on the tension and fear and will be affected. It can be beneficial to help children find ways to talk about their feelings so they will feel less burdened. If families can talk about deportation together, children and parents can feel less alone, if faced with the process.
